alot of it could be the age. some kids are very shy. on top of that throw in the sitch she is experiencing. It accentuates it. That might not make sense, but my two are shy sometimes, but also not in others. It might depend on when they get comfortable with the people they are with. i wouldn't worry too much about it.
stop texting your W about stuff that she does. Seriously, man. You gotta stop that. You aren't helping your cause. Especially if you want to disconnect from her. Don't even think about doing it. I'll admit, I still have trouble sometimes with taht myself, but I usually type the message, then erase it. And you gotta stop caring what she does. I know, I know. easier said than done. But it's just something you need to do.
Good luck.
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