1- Communication is crucial. What helped us when we were at this this stage was no counselor. It was a purchase called "real hope" google it just as I typed it, punctuation & all. It should be the first one. He HAS to listen to you empathetically or else it will not be safe for you to share and this cycle continues. Tell him that is a change he can make that would allow you to open up more.
2- Find a different counselor or tell the counselor before you can move forward to work on a marriage, there needs to be repentance and forgiveness on both sides. AND before that can happen you need these feelings of anger & betrayal dealt with in front of a professional that can do so AND in order to most effectively deal with these feelings, you BOTH need new communications skills (ie: empathetic listening, etc). Ask him if he the person that help the two of you do all those things or do you need to find someone else?
PA & Physical abuse is not acceptable behavior, everyone deserves better than that from a life partner. As do you.
Peace
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
