Question for live-in WAWs

[Purple]

Thx for your thoughts Purple. I kind of figured as much as she has been going out a lot and said that she was so as not to have to think about things.

Keep in mind that she has probably been thinking about this (separation) for a loooooong time. Now that it's out in the 'open' with you she may be desparate to have some time to just put it aside for a bit to see what life feels like. She may need to feel alive. It's pretty draining to think about this stuff 24/7 as you probably well know. From my (WAW) point of view it's important that you understand her needs to get out and have some space. You probably feel damned if you do damned if you don't. She probably does too. Are you GAL'ing? This is one thing I can think may help you.

During our talk yesterday I brought up the need to take things slowly so things don't get out of control to quickly. I know that was a no no but I had to if not for me, but for the kids.

Again, my POV only but be careful with your 'fatherly advice' style here. If it was me I'd take offence and feel like I wasn't trusted to do the right thing for the kids. Everyone screws up and I would never expose my d to the way I think you're getting at. I understand what you're saying about not to be too silly but you gotta be really careful how you say it to her. Hmm...just reading your post again, did you say to her explicitly to not get out of control because it will hurt the kids?

I was also wondering last night, could she be doing the LRT on me? Probably not, I know just thinking about things.

She might be doing LRT but not intentionally (ie probably hasn't read the book). She may feel that there's nothing left that you can do to change the sitch, and so she's trying out a new life to see if the suit fits. Of course she might also be doing it to keep busy so she doesn't have time to think (see first paragraph).

This is not advice, just my POV and how I would interpret things based on my background.