A, If you really do not want a divorce, then do not bring it up. Yes, your h is a very confused man right now and most likely will be for a while. During this time, protect yourself (emotionally), take care of your health, protect your assets and most importantly, learn to live solo for a while. Do not contact your h unless it's an absolute emergency. He needs to come to you now. The best thing you can do is just leave him alone to figure things out. I know, it's extremely hard and you want answers right now, but you aren't going to get the ones that want because he will take the easiest way out of a situation; rather than work on it.
Sit down and make a list of those things that you've put off doing and start working on them. If he's in mlc, he's got a long road ahead of him and while he's MIA, you will need to figure out what you want to do w/your life and start doing it.
The bb is a wonderful place for support and there is always someone here 24/7 to listen, validate and offer up suggestions on what you may be able to do to help yourself.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
