Hope4us struggle, part 6

[Hope4us]

I might have to do that, but I'm not sure it's necessary. If work transfers me, my job will take me to our hometown. S16 is old enough to decide who he wants to live with so I'm not sure how much of a problem it would be.

In my line of work, people get transferred quite a bit and many times one of the couple will stay behind while a child finishes school etc, so this is not really a new concept for us. Heck, WW's family did it a couple times themselves. Her step dad got transferred and her mom and siblings stayed behind to finish up school etc.

Of course, when the time comes I'll ask her if she wants to do it nice or nasty. If she wants to do it nice we can, but if she wants to get nasty the result won't change and we'll just spend a bunch of money we don't need to. But it's her choice. I grew up with NOTHING and we were a very happy family. I can be again, with or without money. But WW....she grew up with Step dad very high up in our company so possessions are IMPORTANT to her. If S16 and I move and she's stuck in a small apartment and can't go on her monthly shopping sprees, she's going to get a dose of reality really quick.

But not my problem. She said to me back in Feb when she first said she wanted a divorce that S16 could choose who he wants to live with. She wanted him to live with her, but if he picked me, that was his choice. I think at that point she was sure he'd want to live with her, but she was sadly mistaken....

I appreciate your advise Pup. It's just so sad that it's come to this, but suprisingly, I'm not that upset. I'm just ready to move on with my life, and each day it becomes clearer to me that moving on without her is what I want/need.

Who knows, maybe she'll say she is ok with moving. I know it's a long shot, but maybe....if she does, then I'll know for sure that it's over with OM.....ok, maybe I can't say that. She could move back with us and when S16 graduates she takes off to be with the POS once again.....