H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

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For my husband (one day) - things that told me there was something up...

* When I found those condoms in your washbag and you said they must have been some of our old ones left over - didn't really believe you

* When I found Elsa's email address on the computer and you said it was a work colleague (well, I suppose she kinda was)

* When I found the charge to your card for the adult 'friend-finder' site, and you said you were just looking

* The fact that I just couldn't get you to come to bed with me, even though I'm NOT fat, NOT got a bad body, NOT old and DO like sex

* The fact that you worked hard on your appearance, waxing, tanning, more preening than me and yet we both know it wasn't for my benefit - do you remember me constantly saying that to you?

* Those times we you used to phone those phone lines for couples wanting a 'third party'

* The debt you ran up in secret

* The fact that you liked to make other women feel good

* The fact that your radar was always on - I knew that

* The fact that you kept your life so hidden from me

* The fact that you lied to me about everything


You see my darling, even though you never meant for me to find out, and in fact I never did until you told me, it leaked into our relationship like a poisonous gas. Slowly, slowly I learned to detach from you to protect myself, which is why the end of our marriage is moving so fast. I am happy to let you go, and as I have already said, I will not take you back.

I love you as a friend, I will be there for you if you need me and I want your life to go well. May God bless you on your journey and I really hope that you find the peace you need.

T x