No, I don't like to kick a man when he is already down. You are so confused that you don't know which way to turn.

Yes, the book by James Dobson is "Love Must be Tough" and it is worth the read.

I may be misunderstanding what is going on here but it seems wife is calling all the shots:
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W said I will go. W says so C is going to treat me more like family than a client.


She tells you that you will go? What did she mean that C is going to treat you more like family than a client?

I still think the C doesn't know what he is doing where you are concerned. He is giving you all the wrong advice and even said as much that he was guessing that your wife wanted you to chase her. That is the opposite of what you need to be doing. It would be hard to detach from her b/c she is constantly using the son to text you about something regarding him or some other excuse. She talks to you too much and finds excuses to see you. That is part of the rollercoaster ride she is on and you never know what to expect out of her.

Have you read the article here on the boad from Michelle about the WAW? Also, in the MLC forum I think she has the fist chapter on her book about MLC and it is good.

I still believe that you need to cut the counselor. If your wife wants to continue without you...fine, but I think you are getting bad advice from him. Some counselors just are not that educated in these matters and a lot of what they say is guess work b/c they don't know. A lot of them even tell couples to divorce b/c they don't know anything else to try.

Take care,
Sandi


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!