"Can I ask you a really dumb question?" "Hmm?" "Did something happen today?" "What do you mean?" "You are acting very different than you have been this week. Very distant." "I'm ok." Long pause. I keep digging. "Its just that we have been having good honest talks recently, and I want that to continue." "What?" Pause again. She turns over to look at me. I don't look back. "Roger, what do you want to know? Don't beat around the bush?" "I'm not beating around the bush. Your just acting different. You went to your mothers today. Did everything go ok?" "Yes." Pause again. "I just want us to keep being honest." Long pause. "You told me the reason for you to drive today was that you were worried about the kids being alone for too long, and I got home before you." "I called them twice after I got off of work." I think to myself, that wasn't my point. "I just want us to keep being honest." Pause again. "And I don't care what you have in your purse." "What?" "The way you are keeping it." "Just habit now." "Just today. You haven't been doing that all week." Quiet. No reply.
She then falls asleep.
H4H,
I'd REALLY like you to consider NOT having conversations like this. You'd be better off either asking her directly if she had contact with OM today, or not bringing up anything at all. This type of back-and-forth very likely only annoys her, or -- worse -- makes her feel that you're not going to do anything about it.
