My wife has said many times that know one will know or understand or care about her more than me.
She has also said that she wants to want to try at our relationship (but obviously doesent want to)
When I'm hopefull my pereption is that my bad moods have caused her hurt and pain and she has built a wall to protect herself.
The moods have gone (weird they went instantly the bomb dropped - i was always semi frustrated / angry and always restless and not satisfied) I believe it was always because my pereption of life and the reality of life were always out of whack. noting like loosing it all to align your perceptions of how you want your life to be.
My wife knows all this and agrees i have changed but says it's too late. Ladies further down the track than me - can my wifes perception change with time ? has yours ?
