Yea, it's not about the practicality of it. It is about working with W in a way that is perceived as being involved and interested. Maybe she is just looking for something - anything - to rag on you about, but don't give her more ammo.
Well, what I will say is this.I personally doubt that any of the teachers said jack squat to Mike's wife. What is the expression we use, believe how much of what they say????
If I was to guess the actual scenario at the conference, it probably went more like this.
The teacher saw Mike's wife, asked where Mike was. Wife said in the other room with all the kids.
That minor conversation probably triggered her to make the mountain out of the molehill as she saw an opening once again to punish Mike for something else.
I cannot speak for Mike, but I imagine he saw an opportunity to have some fun with his D2. He probably thought exactly what I said in my earlier post, that a conference for a 2 year old is not necessarily needed for both parents. He spent time with his kid and gets a rant from his wife about it.
Perception is important, so is reality. Mike responded to his wife great. He clearly said he understood and what he was actually doing. I think he did well with handling the crisis.
I would still bet you that this is not the last he will hear of said subject. I believe she will store it in her arsenal of more things to support her decisions.
Can any one of you actually say that this is something you would have made a big deal about with your spouse? I would guess most of you would have seen him in there with his D2 and gotten a little flutter in your heart over the fact that he was a dad in a room full of 2 year olds just being with his D. Not for nothing, but when I was married, this sort of thing would have actually meant a great night for me.....
Ian
This is exactly how it went.
I got to daycare first. W pulled in. I helped get D out of car. We walked into daycare. Met a teacher at the door and and the teacher said, I'll take D back to the play area and I said, "that's ok, I think I'll go back with her." W says, you're not going to the meeting?, I say nope, I think I'll spend time with D. W says OK. I walk with D back the room, I see the teacher that supposedly questioned the W and told that teacher exactly why I was not going to the meeting...so the teacher that asked the questions the day after the meeting..she knew why I did what I did before the meeting ever started..before she saw my W..
