I was always told if that he wants the divorce, he's the one who has to do all the work. It's not your job to help him.
Unfortunately, at the time I didn't realize how not to 'help' especially since the only time he'd talk to me would be about the divorce. To this day when he talks about what a bad marriage we had, I never mention what was good.. figuring he wouldn't hear it (since he's heavily invested in another relationship and living with her).
Let him work. You be the poster child for GAL!
About being the talk of a small town, it only lasts as long until something new comes along. I was all worried that people would look at me different, that I'd feel ashamed. In the end, no one really cares. You just become another statistic.
As strange as it sounds, as horrible as this is.. it is not the end of the world. In many ways it's the beginning of a new way of living, regardless of how the marriage turns out.
Your spouse is spending lots of time talking. Even if he follows through, the legal system creaks at its own lumbering pace.
