I'm one to feel it's nicer to tell them first. I've also told H that if he ever decides to file, then I'd like the respect of knowing first. I didn't want to get hit with papers that I didn't know were coming. So I'm more on board with your thinking Sugar, then how your friend wants you to do it.
I agree. I just got the papers last week and my H didn't give me any warning. It was a complete shock. I think it's a cowardly, noncourteous way of acting. They are going to find out anyway, so why not have the courtesy to give the person a heads-up. I think if there is a question always take the high road, and you won't regret that. Karen
