Fishing, Dogs and Divorce.....OH MY!!!

[GFI]

Between a rock and a hard place:-

I might be missing something in the translation here but surely there is a limit to the sophistication of a teacher parent conference for a 2 year old! Did you see it for what it was but sort of went along with it to go through the motions?

Problem was - your W clearly had expectations of you - grounded in a set of beliefs or expectations which you might not share. In fact, even if you did, you probably don't now. Even if out of principle.

Bottom line synopsis as I see it - the childcare place was making something out of nothing, your wife bought it, you didn't, didn't play ball, but tried to placate, kept D happy, and now you're suffering.

IME (in my experience) some people can find all common sense departing when kids are introduced to the mix - ie things which they would have looked upon sceptically previously now assume an importance and significance beyond their worth because their S or D is involved.

I don't think you have a chance of extricating yourself smelling of roses from this- best you can do IMO is to say "it was a load of b*ll@cks, the best I could do was to go play with D and her pals and I'll sort out what I need to know as I go with the WONDERFUL people that work there. I'm sorry"

And Mike - the whistle has not blown!

Best - GFI