Bagheera - Amen to your wonderful understanding of what it takes for some women to get sexually aroused. Your description is perfect!
Silly - You are doing so very well, really.
To both of you, I want to give you hope: once you can cross that hurdle in your wife's mind/body connection, to where she is thinking about sex regularly and you are having sex regularly (even if "Just do it" for a while still), then soon enough she will be "closer" to ready for sex more often. At some point in the process, if you both remain committed to it, she will just "be horny" on her own all of a sudden...and then it will happen more and more often. It builds upon itself, once she gets her groove on. Eventually, the same woman who was LD can truly change and become HD. Not to say that for sure this will happen with your wives, but the *possibility* is there, if as a couple you really stay committed to it.
Strive for it! :0)
I used to think I was LD. Now I know I was just disconnected from my sexual self...by my choice and also my neglect of that part of myself. Once I got connected to that part of myself again and really got going, I realized I was actually just waiting to blossom into a totally new woman...the sexy, vibrant one I always wished I could be. Your wives do want to be that woman, too. And you are both doing so well in helping her.
