I agree. What are friends for? Not saying be a constant wet blanket, but you need to flesh things out with people that care about you. And breaking out of the cycle of gloom is great advice - whatever it takes. Even if it only helps for a little while. You need to remind yourself what that feels like.
I agree with G and Gyps..that's what friends are for..justto listen and let you blow off some steam.
Great job on going out and spending time with a friend. That's very brave of you to share what's going on. A friend I just recently told quietly chided me, "Why didn't you call me sooner?"
You love and care for so many.. allow them to do the same in return.
Hey Girlie, how are you today ? Anything new & fun ?
xoxo
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Thank you, friends, for checking in on me. Enjoyed Saturday afternoon with my friend. Helped him do some shopping (he has color "issues"). He couldn't provide too much feedback about my current situation, but it was nice for me verbalize my feelings of betrayal, sadness, fear.
Yesterday I drove up to Shaver Lake with my dog. It was beautiful, but way too crowded. I needed some solitude. Some peace and quiet. We drove up past Shaver to Balsam Meadows and hiked back to a reservoir. Only saw three other humans. It was awesome. I'll post a couple photos over 'there'.
Feelings of sadness continue today. I'm not depressed, just very, very sad. I hate it.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
I know the depressed feeling - it's good you were able to get out. I find that always helps. Look forward to seeing your pix - I don't know that area at all.
Hmm, maybe I can get you to help me with my color "issues"! I seldom wear anything outside of the bruise palette - black, dark blue, grey. It's good you have someone to listen. I hate that I still need to talk to friends about my sitch, but it does help.
Hey Ms. Girl I'm glad you got out this weekend and were able to talk about it a little. Sometimes its good just to be able to verbalize how you are feeling. I know its one thing to type it here on the board, but quite another to say the words, at least for me. I would be willing to bet that there are people in your circle that would love to be there for you, you just have to let them. The solitude sounds heavenly, I for one love just being in nature, quiet and by myself. It just fills me up.
How are things in your world today? You are such a sweet and loving force. Too good to let anyone steal your joy. Be gentle with yourself, you deserve it. Here for you no matter what and you know where to find me if you ever just wanna vent. I'm home all week. ((((Hugs)))))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Thank you, friends, for checking in on me. Enjoyed Saturday afternoon with my friend. Helped him do some shopping (he has color "issues"). He couldn't provide too much feedback about my current situation, but it was nice for me verbalize my feelings of betrayal, sadness, fear.
Yesterday I drove up to Shaver Lake with my dog. It was beautiful, but way too crowded. I needed some solitude. Some peace and quiet. We drove up past Shaver to Balsam Meadows and hiked back to a reservoir. Only saw three other humans. It was awesome. I'll post a couple photos over 'there'.
Feelings of sadness continue today. I'm not depressed, just very, very sad. I hate it.
Can I just sit by you & hold your hand while you're sad ? Do you know the stages of grief ? sad is in there. It's okay to grieve. It's okay to be sad. Like I told Ms Gypsy about a pity party, just decide how long it's going to last, 5 minutes, 5 days, 5 weeks, whatever, then when the times up, blow your nose, wash your face, & get on with life. & sometimes, you can't give it a time frame, it just needs to wash over you when you least expect it.
xoxoxoxox
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
How can I express the immense gratitude for the support you all give me???? It means so much and it helps more than my words can possibly convey.
I feel so much better today. Calm. Not as sad. Not much sadness at all, really. My biggest concern today is about my OM's health, but I'm hoping he'll bounce back. He's a survivor.
My dog is in my lap and he smells like a salty corn chip. I realize how odd that probably sounds, but I love it. It makes me very happy. I'm easy to please.
Now, who can give me a head count on the alleged raft trip? You can let me know on the alternate universe if you'd like. Or here. =)
Sending lots and lots of love to each and every one of you.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo, R
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
You're a lovely one. I'll slip in on the other side.. just hanging out with buddies, pity parties, the OM, our BFs, Ben and Jerry and salty corn chip dogs..
((((Hugs)))))