Rob, I have noticed you are the only one who sleeps in... I envy you. I wish I could sleep, actually I wish I could sleep anytime of the day lately... K
Oh, I three-putted on both #7 and #16. Ticked me off! But, if you don't practice, can you really expect to play well? The answer is NO, so I just enjoyed the opportunity to go out and play.
Yesterday's contact w/ W was interesting. First, she sent me a text while I was on the course asking if I had plans for the 4th which I answered "not yet." She replied back saying she hadn't figured out "visitation" - I HATE THAT WORD! I replied telling her to take D for the 4th b/c I had her for Labor Day and we'd figure out a different way for me to see her next week. Then she called me while we were on the course and I answerd and said "I'm on the golf course and I can't talk right now. We're almost done. Can I call you when I'm driving home?" She said "Oh, I'll just talk to you later" and hung up. I tried to call her from the car, but got her voice mail, so I just left a message.
Then I was out w/ a friend looking at a potential small business opportunity so I can look to cut my taxes down further now that I'm on my own, when D called and began grilling me as to where I was. I wasn't sure how much detail D wanted and I was answering her questions, but she got really angry, said "He's just saying he's in Scottsdale" to W and then just said "bye, dad" and hung up. I found this to be odd as it sounded like W was using D to pump me for info.
W called back about 25 minutes later and was ticked off at me and using the F-word liberally - oh, where was my recorder when I needed it? Anyway, she denied profusely that she cared where I was "I don't care if you are out on a date or whereever. I really don't, but for some reason it is really important for D to know where you are."
I told W that I had been trying to answer D's questions, but she kept getting mad at me and that I had told her where I was and who I was with, but W was still kind of pissy. I then asked "Do you want me to tell her I'm in a bar drinking (which is where I was)?" W answered "just tell her you are at restaurant X or restaurant Y." I countered w/ "So, you want me to lie to her? I thought we were supposed to always be truthful?"
W didn't like that too much and steadfastly denied her telling me to lie to D - even though she just did - and went on a bit more. I finally got her to stop repeating the same things over and over and thanked her for letting me know that D feels better if she has my exact location, etc. so I'll be more specific in the future w/ telling her things. We then discussed today's pickup and then W did her usual hang up w/out the courtesy of being polite.
So, it seems to me that W does hate the fact that she can't control me, but wasn't I supposed to be the controlling one? Hmmm. Sounds a bit odd to me, especially since she repeatedly denied wanting to know where I was at but made sure to say things like "I don't care if you are on a date" or "I don't care if you are at a strip club." If she didn't care, why would these even be brought up? The answer. They wouldn't.
So, last night was interesting on several fronts. The business part is interesting and so is the fact that W was playing another one of her games. However, I didn't let her affect my mood as I just said - "That's just W being W" or "that is just Crazy being Crazy." They are peas in a pod these days.
Now, I'm trying to finish up my basic morning stuff so I can get my cardio work in before I pick up D at noon, so I'll be running for now and check back w/ you all later.
Just to update you, yesterday was a bit of a 'closure' day for my W in that I received my official D decree letter in the mail. Now she can set forth on whatever plans she has for herself, I guess.
I'm sorry to hear that, my friend. Hang in there. You can only push yourself forward through all of this. Work on what you can control and leave the rest in the hands of fate.
Well, yesterday I got a call from D who asked me if we could meet at a point in-between W and I so she could play instead of being dropped off near the house here. I originally agreed, but when I saw that doing so would spoil my only shot at hitting the gym during the next three days, I quickly tried to call back and change things to the original plan.
I got W's voice mail and went to the gym anyway. W and I sent texts about dropping off D and W made sure to tell me D was upset and crying b/c they passed the spot where she wanted to be picked up and D didn't understand why they weren't stopping.
Well, I picked up D and we went to the play place at the mall like we planned. While we were on our way up there, I talked w/ D about how upset she got w/ me Thursday night on the phone when she didn't know where I was. I told her we could drive by and see where I was if she wanted. She said she didn't and then she began to retell the story from her point-of-view. The interesting part came when D said "and then Mommy said to hang up the phone and she took it and closed it up." I'm not sure who to believe here, but according to W, W didn't care at all where I was and hanging up the phone was completely D's idea. I know D is only 5 and I'm not supposed to believe everything she says, but for some reason her story just sounded more realistic than W's lame excuses did on Thursday night.
So, we went to "As You Wish" and D painted a pottery piece for me, W, and herself. She did the artwork and only had me do some of the fine tuning. D even asked the girls there if we could "put a rush on it" so she could get her stuff by Sunday instead of on Monday. So, they gave in to her sweet face and did it. Kids.
We went from there to a late lunch then saw "WALL-e" which was cute. W called as we were walking out of the movie and was friendly chatty w/ me. She didn't ask to talk w/ D, but was content to do small talk w/ me. I didn't keep the conversation going b/c W did all the asking and talking. Anyway, I turned the phone over to D and they talked about the movie and then D told W she wanted to go. After that, D and I went to the play area and W texts saying "tell D I love her" and she didn't answer her phone when D called at the usual 7:30 to say goodnight. D left a message and we kept on having fun together.
We went and looked at animals in Petsmart, then hit the grocery store and went home to go to bed.
W sent an e-mail this morning around 9:30 telling me to go ahead and book the painters. I replied thanking her and informing her I'd keep all receipts for her to see the costs.
D and I goofed around a bit this morning and alternated in between playing and watching the Power Puff Girls (her new favorite). We've both eaten lunch and now we're looking to go to the pool for the afternoon. D has said she wants sushi for dinner, so I'm guessing we'll come home, give D a bath so she doesn't smell like chlorine and then head out for sushi.
So, I've got my day planned for today. If she konks out early, I'll check back w/ you all tonight. If not, I'll check in tomorrow.
I totally missed this yesterday. I'm so sorry, love.
As for my sleeping in, I feel like a bit of a bum b/c I'm off for the summer and can sleep when I don't have my D w/ me. However, I'm trying to make a change in July to get up no later than 7 am and leave the house and either go to the gym or driving range (or one after the other) so I can get up and get moving and not waste more hours.
I'm worried about the lack of sleep you are getting. I really hope you are able to get back on some type of pattern soon or else I'm hoping you'll head to the doctor for some short-term relief and some sleep.
You don't deserve to be sleepless due to your circumstances. We all have lives that are less than perfect, but we all deserve to be rested and healthy. Life is tough enough on its own if you are mentally and physicall exhausted, but it is damn near impossible if you are mentally and physically thrashed and trying to work w/ WAS.
I'll be thinking nothing but good thoughts for you to get the rest you need, my friend.
Well, D and I went to the pool and she was amazing. Her confidence is soaring and she is getting pretty good at swimming underwater. She's really getting bold and brave and is no longer afraid of the water. We worked on diving in to gain distance today and she was so competitive w/ herself and it was neat to see her pushing herself to her limits today w/out fear. The pool was a good trip.
We then went to sushi where she again ate a ton, then we came home, folded laundry - she was the "laundry inspector" who would put things in piles and throw them back at me if they weren't folded correctly. Needless to say, we had fun, but this took a bit longer than normal.
W called while we were at dinner and got miffed that D wasn't at the table b/c she was in back w/ the staff making our desserts. They love her at that place, but W was ticked she was not w/ me. Oh, well. D had fun and I know W criticizes everything I do anyway, so I might as well let her have the experience. Besides, how many of us get to go into the kitchen of a restaurant and make our own desserts? Why would I not give her this chance?
She got clingy and scared as she said she was afraid of "bad guys" so we discussed her fears and talked about what she should do if one of the "bad guys" she's afraid of (a "child stealer") tries to take her. She soaked it up and we'll revisit it plenty more times so she'll be comfortable w/ what to do if she is in that situation (God forbid).
She's crashed in my bed now, so I thought I'd catch up w/ everyone before turning in myself. We have a big day of ice skating and picking up our pottery before I "release her" back to W.
Sleep well everyone - or "good morning" to my friends across the Pond.
