I didn't think I was going to have much to post but I thought I should give a little update.
W and I are getting along fine, some little things I do still annoy her but she doesn't use them as excuses to storm out of the house or go to OM, they just annoy her. Example, me not un tangling my clothes before putting them in the linen basket, she said I'm worse than a schoolboy or a teenager. If it ticks her off that much, I will do better.
The decorating in the house is on hold at the moment cos it's more like a renovation project and we are waiting for the builder (one of her uncles) to find the time to fit us in.
Heres the big one. Last night I got dressed up to go out for a drink with work colleges, W commented on the nice shirt I was going to wear, it was actually one I had bought and not one of the many she had chosen for me. Before I left W asked me why I didn't have my wedding ring on, I explained to her that we had this conversation before, and I didn't want to go over it again. W kept pushing and pushing and wanted to know why I wasn't wearing my wedding ring. I told her I didn't want to discuss it but if she insisted, the reason was that to me that ring signifies our old marriage which I didn't want to go back to and if she wanted me to wear a wedding ring she could buy me a new one. W denied having this conversation with me and then she said whats the point in celebrating our anniversary in September if I don't wear a ring and what's the point of her wearing her ring. Well because she was pushing on this point a few negative thoughts about her A came into my mind, but I quickly pushed them aside (before I had an attack of turrets). W then asked if I got a new ring could she have one also, I said yes but I wouldn't be buying it. W ended on if I take her to Dubai again (we went it 1999 not likely to go again) she would but me an new ring. I've missed a few bits out but that was the jist of the conversation.
I know I could have handled this differently, but I'm not letting go on this one, I think W can show some commitment and if the rings means that much to her she can buy a new one. Other than that a wedding ring doesn't mean that much to me because having a wedding ring didn't stop her having the A.
This morning W said "about that ring...." And then laughingly stopped, she now knows it's a sore point with me, but in a good way she's treating it lightheartly.
Today my company had a family open day, it gave workers a better chance to try to explain to their families exactly what it is we manufacture, and also enjoy some family fun. W, D6 and I all participated and had a really, really good day.
