Good luck with your meeting tonight. This is such a crummy place to be--no control about what happens, no warning that our lives were about to suddenly blow up, no idea what's coming next or when, and then there's having the OW to deal with. So many layers of pain.

No, he wasn't right to leave your relationship after 25 years and start travelling with OW. That's just wrong. Don't even go there.

M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012