That is very true but it still may be some thing that will remain missing, I am no longer the same person that was able to to do my old profession when that discussion was done and I stopped, I stopped having my goal and focus and I let it all slide and now with the clarity of hindsight it was wrong but it was also my decision to make, no one but me to blame and no one but me to pick up the pieces, which was not my plan but it is now:) as you said balls in my court I am faced with a lot of tough roads, my fitness my self esteem and so on, non came easy but were easy to lose.