Hope4us struggle, part 6

[Hope4us]

Thanks Pup, I've been thinking of what I'll say for two days now. Thinking of what I'll say if she says she doesn't want to move.

I'm thinking it'll be something like this.....

So all those times you said you didn't want to move because of S16 was just a story and not the truth? You not wanting to move speaks volumes to me and can only make me think that my suspicion that you have no intention of trying to see if our marriage has a chance and you were only hanging around until OM moves back to the area is correct. If this is the case, fine, just be honest with me so S16 and I can move on with our lives. S16 has told me if you don't want to move with us that it's obvious you don't really care about him or me and you've made your choice. If there is some other reason you don't want to move, tell me that reason and we can discuss it. But I really think that this move would be best for everyone involved IF you want to give our marriage and family a chance.

If I get the "I don't knows" and "maybe's" like you think I will I'm going to go into S16's grades/attitude etc and say to her that it's obvious that the best thing in the world for him would be to move home where family and REAL friends are and if you can't see that it's obvious what your real plans are. I mean, this is the son that had a 4.0 for 11 straight quarters before we moved here and still a 3.4 gpa before the affair started. How could she not see what she's done to him.

Which ever way this goes, I'm ready for it. I want my marriage to work, but not at the expense of my own self respect and my son's well being. And as an added bonus, S19 LOVES our hometown and has said to me many times, Why don't you move back?

What do you think?