H...Is your W still actively in the affair? If she is, then I would strongly consider telling your D. She's an adult. She can handle it. Maybe wait until after Retro to see the results from that?

I just know, telling my kids was the best thing I ever did. They're S19 and S16 and they THANKED me for telling them the truth. They still love their mother, but I really feel that kids should know the TRUTH about things that affect their lives. And just because she's 23 doesn't mean she won't be affected by a divorce.


Hope4us

Me - 49, W 49
S22 & S18
Dday 9/4/07
W claims NC 4/7/08
8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.