To have all this clarity and drive for change, and no partner to do it with.
Chris
It it absolutely amazing how many of us have such carbon copy situations. "Clarity"... yep, yep, yep. Right down to the things you said about things being "fixable". I keep saying we're six months from happy.
Thing is we've done the investigating, we've done the "work", they haven't. Our job now (esp those who were in depressed etc)... is to make them curious about us again. Make them have something about "us" that gets them excited about us. That takes time... as does the 180 required to catch their attention.
You don't turn an ocean liner around in 10 seconds,... it's a wide gradual turn.
You're doing well... keep it up! Abbey
PS - "doing" the 180 is multifaceted - some of it is about doing stuff differently than you did in the marriage... but it's about opening up options for you... it breaks their stereotype of you. So... The initiation from you is GOOD! The zip thingy is good too. Do stuff they don't expect. Do stuff that gives them a reason to do a double-take in your direction.
Last edited by Abbey; 06/28/0811:51 AM.
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
