ok whatdidido, I guess I will add something here quickly.
No contact, including and in particular to your situation means NO FANTASIZING.
If you find yourself wandering there then STOP and DO SOMETHING that requires your concentration. Do a crossword puzzle or something that requires your mind to focus on that instead.
It reads like you are maintaining no external contact, so your mind is deciding to just IMAGINE contact, you are imaginging him and your life together...if you are going to continue that you may as well just phone him.
I would hazzard a guess here that this is even worse...because its pure fantasy, the OM doesn't even have a chance to louse that up like he might in reality.
When you agree to no contact, it includes making efforts not to think about him...or you may as well just call him up, you arne't accomplishing anything if you let your mind wander like that.
No contact really means NO thought or action directed or involving the OM. No thought or action relating to this guy at all...
Your addiction wasn't drugs or alcohol, it was a fantasy, and you are NOT stopping yourself from that if you keep fantasizing.
Sorry, but you aren't in withdrawal from a fantasy if you keep entertaining them, you need to STOP fantasizing or you won't get through it.
Every time you fantasize you take another drink or another hit of your addiction. You weren't addicted to him, you got addicted to the fantasy that the two of you gave birth to. The FANTASY must end.
This guy's promises and claims are really good for that. I would treat you like a queen etc, this is just really good fantasy, he should be selling used cars. In reality he's a selfish liar and he was selling you a fantasy.
STOP fantasizing or you won't get to the other side.
