Too late for DB for us, #9 (was in separated)

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It is a big statement. This was a few days ago, but earlier in the day I was whining to him about something (that is a result of us splitting) and then sent him an email apologizing, saying that I was trying my best to detach, that I knew that sharing my feelings never changed things and never would and that I realized it just made things worse because he couldn't understand why I just couldn't pick myself up and move on like he did. That I thought it more healthy for myself if I stopped the habits and remember that he's not there for me like he once was. He said that I could continue to share and that I was "off base" in thinking that doing so made things worse, that that wasn't true at this point.

So he's growing. Good for him and good for our kids. It's nice to see. (Holding back the anger at him choosing to let himself go and grow AFTER we were done and not before, but whatever.)