I know being an LBS i shouldn't really be posting here but in desperate.
My w of 9 years moved out 2 months ago taking our two boys with her.
Two months before that she told me she was leaving and was so amazed by my instant 180 that she agreed to give it a two months. Best two months of our relationship - communication - love - connection all great - but she said she was still leaving.
We communicated very well and I completely acknowledged and changed all the behaviours which led to her leaving. So much so she refers to me as "new" me. The changes were done for me.
I agreed with all her negative comment about how she had got to this place.
Main reason love died she says was my constant derogatory comments about her interests. She was adored in every other way though. She had been checked out of the relationship for over a year and was gob smacked that a person could so radically change ( I hadn't read DB at that time).
She said the change was too late and the spark was gone.
Three weeks after moving out she slept with another guy who lives 4 hours away. She is a very honest person and i don't believe the om influenced her leaving. Hope i'm not being naive. She has seen him 3 times in 2 months. She says "he is on the edge of the picture"
She loves me, misses me, hates not knowing where i am going/doing, cares about me and we love spending time together.
She never wants me to hang up the phone or leave the house.
We get on really well and seem to find any excuse to spend time together.
She will not even consider working on our relationship period.
I am now actively not mentioning R and just having a good time with her or her and kids and waiting waiting waiting. Giving no pressure at all - not mentioning OM and just seeing where she goes.
Problem is i am being torn apart not being with her and knowing there is OM.
WAW out there- I really need someone to give me some insight as to what she is feeling/thinking. I;m honestly looking for an excuse to give up because the pain is huge. I have always loved her like no other and constantly told her that.
