hey chris I didn't know you moved here, I was kind of looking for you and you were gone!! just letting you know I'm keeping up on your situation,and I'm here to support you if I can. mine has changed dramatically just lately, find out about PA,says she hates me etc etc, BUT for some reason I am doing really well in between small mental setbacks, I think I was as bad or worse than you at this db thing,not being able to detach etc etc but it truly is making a difference in myself that I didn't think was possible only a week ago, so hang in there, you can catch up on my thread if you like, it's still in newcomers but I think it's time to move over here. TAKE CARE!!