Thanks friends...yes, BF is needy. He likes to say he isn't but yes, he is, and I don't need another person to take care of.

He has asked for time to "process" what I've been telling him for the past two weeks, so we haven't talked now in three days - unusual for us. For me, and this is telling me something, it has felt like a break.

So we'll see. I hate hurting him, but especially after the way he's handled this, I just have too many doubts.

And I got to talk to XH today about some finances. That always goes SO well. He just inherited a bunch of money from his mother's estate.

Anyhow, I asked XH if he planned to put any of that money away for S17's college for next year. I had asked him when we divorced that we both agree to use money we might inherit from either parent to put the kids through college - and I did it specifically to eliminate hard feelings that might come up. It is very hard for me to know that OW and her kids are going to benefit from my MIL's inheritance and my kids will not. XH replied that we never put that in writing and that he had a bunch of debt he had to pay off (I know...I am paying the other half of that debt!), that OW had huge debt from her divorce and the travel for her kids visitation, and that since he had to pay gas and travel expenses now every time he sees our kids he won't be able to put any away for college. (Whose choice was it to divorce and be away from your kids??? Whose choice was it to get married to OW and support her and her two kids???) Oh, and he is going to see a lawyer to find out if the divorce decree stating that he would continue to pay support to our kids while they were in college could be enforced, because he thinks it should be just what he decides to give them once they are over 18, instead of a mandatory amount.

Ugh. The man makes five times what I make. He would not agree to pay for college, but finally agreed to pay support while they were in college so the kids would have spending money, car insurance, clothing, etc. Now he is going back on that. I don't think he can, but it just means another battle to fight.

In good news, S17 got his drivers license today!!! In bad news, S17 got his driver's license today!!! No, really he is a good driver but I am a worrier when it comes to my kids...and I just got the quote for the insurance. XH, of course, declined to pay anything toward it, saying he thinks it should come from child support. S17 has been trying to get a summer job so he can pay 1/2, but so far few people are hiring teenagers. He may have to go back to lawn mowing, which he HATES!!!

Happy Friday!

VJ