Well! Today went a lot better than last week! I still suck, but I parred two holes in a row. Then proceeded to hit two straight shots into the "river" that runs through the course! But, on the last hole, which has two lakes, and always turns into disaster, I used my large brain, instead of the other one, and didn't hit anything into the water, and played the hole like I intended (except for the extra putt). So, I hit just enough good shots to make me want to try again, as usual!
Kalni! You have hugging down, right? That's a good start! You can learn everything else!
As I said, I talked to C about asking W if she ever sees wanting to work on the M. The C doesn't seem to see any downside to doing it sooner rather than later. If W says no, I can decide to continue as things are, or "do something different". If she says yes, it gives a starting point to go from. In either case, I can then act based on something other than guessing what W wants, or doesn't. At worst, nothing changes for practical purposes. Then we talked a bit about whether money was a problem when considering D, and how I would handle it. Of course it is a problem. But my intention would be to try to enable us to continue to meet the obligations we have, and the promises we've made, to the kids. This will probably mean that I come out "behind" compared to what would be required, but it is the right thing to do. We even talked a bit about how I pictured custody. I really feel the kids should live mostly in one house, and it will probably be with W. I will still want to spend a lot of time with them, but that shouldn't cause their lives to be excessively disrupted, in my mind. I'm not sure how that looks, but it probably isn't 50-50 physically. I'd rather have them stable, I think.
Anyway, I don't think she was encouraging me to go in that direction at all, I think she was more making sure where my head is, to make sure I wouldn't go stupid if things head that way. She seemed pleased that I wanted to make sure we followed through with the kids, rather than trying to get the "best" deal. Anyway, if it happens, it will be a pain, but it can work.
Now I have to figure out if I have time to try golfing tomorrow afternoon!
