Sorry for the hyjack, but talking about little things that gets to you...there is a phrase the H's use here on the board that I wished they would stop after his wife returns home or after she breaks contact with her OM. That being, to continue to refer to her as his WW. To me, it is constantly sprinkling salt in the wound b/c if she has tried to make amends, stop calling her that. It's just a touchy thing for me, I suppose, but you would not continue to refer to her as a WAW as if she was still gone but in reality she had returned home, so I don't think calling her a wayward wife is healthy if she has made the decision to stay in the M. I think she should just be called..."wife". JMHO. Maybe I am too sensitive about it.....I have noticed a lot of men in other threads that call their W's this, even though they have come back home to him. Why not just refer to our spouses as our sinful spouse? We would all fit into that category wouldn't we?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
