Well, Tink, my counselor thinks he doesn't file because that way he doesn't have to commit to anyone. Which may be true.
And I do believe there are lots of women who would have a relationship with a guy who was separated, because then they don't have to commit either.
I don't know, Rusty, if he were gay, if that would give me any more closure. I think I would be sad for him to have lived a lie for so long, and sad for me that I fought so hard for something that wasn't ever real.
But, I don't really think he is gay.
Married: 25 years Separated: 5 years Kids: 2, ages 21 and 24 Me: 53 H: 50