My concern for FIB is that his wife has a history of pushing him away, pulling him back in, and pushing him away, again. That is why I told him to be sure of what he wants. If he decides that HE wants his marriage to work, then he needs to be firm in that decision and do whatever it takes within his power to make it happen.
DB offers lots of ways to help change the dance and the drama. And our perspective always needs to be to help brainstorm ways to help change our part of the patterns of interaction. So, the better path for advice is to offer ways to help change the dance.
I 'hear' you saying, "Basically, FIB, I'm not telling you to leave, but what you're doing isn't working and it's all her fault, are you sure you want to stay in this?"
Last edited by sgctxok; 06/28/0801:07 AM.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
