Separated 5 years.

[Rusty]

You guys are cracking me up! Tink, do you really think you can tell if someone is gay by all that stuff? I mean, I know they, alot of times, fit the sterotype but not always.
I have told my H that he is in no uncertain terms to bring another person into my kids lives (really just a threat, what could I really do), but I know if he did have someone and they knew about it, at least one of them would tell me. But you seem like a bigger person MP than I am - I agree that you shouldn't ask and they shouldn't be put in the middle. I try, but it is so hard.
I have just started dropping hints that I may start dating - that it has been too long and I don't want to be alone forever. And I don't let anyone know who I am going out with, male or female, mostly to keep H guessing. Have you tried having a little mystery? Even if you aren't seeing someone, no need for anyone to know that.