Hi Wifey! Sorry you are here but glad you are just for the fact of getting some advice and the knowledge that you are not alone.
Don't pursue him, be agreeable, friendly when you see him or talk to him.
You have an opportunity to display some 180's when your H comes by the house. For instance, change how you normally dress, fix your hair and make-up differently. What do you normally do when he does these things? Do something else. Is there something he complained about you not doing? Have it done before he shows up.
Those are some quick things that may get him to notice.
