MP53 - I think they all like the oral best!!! I don't think that means anything. Very interesting take Tink - but the musicals??? How funny. Do you think he has been celibate for all 5 years of your separation? I know that my H and I were seeing each other for around 10 months of our S and had the best sex ever and then, just stopped?? I can't imagine him going this long without it, so I have to believe he is with someone. Do you think your H has had sex with anyone in your 5 years apart? I really worry about that on my side anyway.
Me-48 H-48 Married 25years Sep 12/05 S-24, S-22, S-18, D-12 Dated for 9 months of S, not dating now http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1565826
Rusty, I'm pretty sure he has been with at least one or two others. He was in a "long-term" relationship with someone for about a year. I have no idea what he told her about himself, so I'm not certain why it lasted as long as it did, or why it broke apart.
He has told me he's not sleeping with anyone, but I don't ask anymore.
And yes, 5 years is too long to go without sex. I agree. *cries*
Married: 25 years Separated: 5 years Kids: 2, ages 21 and 24 Me: 53 H: 50
You guys are cracking me up! Tink, do you really think you can tell if someone is gay by all that stuff? I mean, I know they, alot of times, fit the sterotype but not always. I have told my H that he is in no uncertain terms to bring another person into my kids lives (really just a threat, what could I really do), but I know if he did have someone and they knew about it, at least one of them would tell me. But you seem like a bigger person MP than I am - I agree that you shouldn't ask and they shouldn't be put in the middle. I try, but it is so hard. I have just started dropping hints that I may start dating - that it has been too long and I don't want to be alone forever. And I don't let anyone know who I am going out with, male or female, mostly to keep H guessing. Have you tried having a little mystery? Even if you aren't seeing someone, no need for anyone to know that.
Me-48 H-48 Married 25years Sep 12/05 S-24, S-22, S-18, D-12 Dated for 9 months of S, not dating now http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1565826
You guys are cracking me up! Tink, do you really think you can tell if someone is gay by all that stuff? I mean, I know they, alot of times, fit the sterotype but not always. I have told my H that he is in no uncertain terms to bring another person into my kids lives (really just a threat, what could I really do), but I know if he did have someone and they knew about it, at least one of them would tell me. But you seem like a bigger person MP than I am - I agree that you shouldn't ask and they shouldn't be put in the middle. I try, but it is so hard. I have just started dropping hints that I may start dating - that it has been too long and I don't want to be alone forever. And I don't let anyone know who I am going out with, male or female, mostly to keep H guessing. Have you tried having a little mystery? Even if you aren't seeing someone, no need for anyone to know that.
Rusty,
Don't play games, it could backfire. At this point you know what you need to work on, there's no need for taunting or going dark. And yes I'm amusing myself a little with the gay talk.
But I do believe MP53's husband is behaving like a man in the closet.
Perhaps his benefit of not getting divorced is so people still think he's married and don't know he's not living with his wife and therefore assume he's straight.
