2008 = Crazy Year (Still)

[lost_in_space]

Here is an update (meaningless maybe...)

Just had a call from WW wondering a couple things. First, when are we coming back from the lake? Guess that means I am still going. Response was that it didn't matter to me... never has before so why the interest now?

Second, what my plans were for taking S13 to sports camp in summer (also is a family holiday). WW is in a course the opening weekend so it will be S13, D10 and me to start... D16 has to stay home for soccer.

Not sure if WW is fishing for me to say "can we talk later" (on Wed night she said this was something she wished I would do), but what is there to talk about right now? I have said my peace. If she has something to say, say it. Am I missing something here?

Update on OMW - no reply as of yet.

[hopeful4her]

Like Puppy said, if she shows no or little interest, no use to pursue it. Once I let MIL know the truth, I was hoping for more action on her part. You know, be a mother and give good advice. Hoping she would be unsupportive of her actions. Especially the A. She has just kind of let if go. She told me recently, "You can't make her stay."

I know that, you stupe.

It sounds like your W does want to talk. Not sure what to tell you. I would be tempted. I think others would advise against any R talks at this point.

But to me, what do you have to lose? Like you, I don't think I'm the best advisor on here.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Here is an update (meaningless maybe...)

Just had a call from WW wondering a couple things. First, when are we coming back from the lake? Guess that means I am still going. Response was that it didn't matter to me... never has before so why the interest now?

Second, what my plans were for taking S13 to sports camp in summer (also is a family holiday). WW is in a course the opening weekend so it will be S13, D10 and me to start... D16 has to stay home for soccer.

Not sure if WW is fishing for me to say "can we talk later" (on Wed night she said this was something she wished I would do), but what is there to talk about right now? I have said my peace. If she has something to say, say it. Am I missing something here?

Update on OMW - no reply as of yet.

LIS,

My take on it is, she's nervous. She's trying to "temperature check" you to make sure still on board as "Fallback Lost," as she's still not sure what she wants to do.

Keep doing what you're doing, for the time being. Then drop your bombs, simultaneously.

Puppy

[lost_in_space]

H4H

When I was talking to the good Friends that WW went to see last week, apparently WW went on about the problems we are having, said to Friends "that is what I told my parents", started crying and said "but there is more" and then proceeded into the A. As I mentioned, Friends lost any sympathy / support they had for WW when they heard this, and even got angry with her. Even mentioned that there is no way that WW parents or our K's would not find out.

I would be shocked if reaction was something other than MIL being livid and FIL going ballistic. WW knows this (she experienced their initial rage when they just suspected an A).

At the end of it all, WW may not stay either. But this fear and the guilt weighs heavily and will do so for some time to come.

(just gotta keep up with you!)

[hopeful4her]

Good luck, bro.

You'd have to be an Ironman triathlete to try to keep up with the sh** I feel like I'm trying to handle.

[lost_in_space]

so true!

[lost_in_space]

Right or not right?

Get home and WW has made supper. Great. I set the table and she says she is not eating. I say ok and don't ask why. After supper I clean up and then am off for food for the weekend - don't ask where she is going.

Thoughts?

[lost_in_space]

Update - OMW gave me her cell. May not be able to call to next week.

[lost_in_space]

Sat morning. Getting ready to go to lake. K's are excited. WW avoiding me like I had some deathly disease...

She was out last night (don't know with who) until after midnight.

Who knows what fun this weekend will bring!

[james85395]

Be strong and know that you are in the right with your actions. She is only treating you the way she is right now because she probably already fears you are going to out her. Understand or not some women seem to have the argument with you in their head and pass judgement before you even know the topic of the conversation.