I just showed H. He came in for seconds of dinner (yes I cooked for him. Thursdays are an akward night with schedules for his visits so I end up cooking for ease for everyone). Anyway........ he seemed pretty impressed when I showed him. And shhh........ he's afraid of heights, so I think he is pretty shocked I'm going to do this.
I've had a girls trip planned for Sept with 18 girl friends for MONTHS in the mountains, and 4 of us are going to do this. I'm scared to death, but figure it'll be a release of some sort,and an "I am woman hear me roar" sort of moment! LOL
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!
Where you just standing there waiting for him to come out? Or was it more like you "happened" to be getting dressed when all of a sudden he came out of the shower much sooner than you thought he would and he accidently caught you in your matching bra/pantie set? See the difference?
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Good grief! So many of us LE wives...again, I say we need to form a society!
Accidentally getting "caught" in your bra and panties is a VERY good thing, lying in wait is NOT. Be very careful that you are not being too manipulative. He'll pick up on that very quickly and retreat from you.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Hmmm, well..... I wasn't exactly sly. LOL But he didn't retreat, and I'm pretty sure he had fun as well.
I just don't know. Our sex life is better than it's ever been, and I know he thinks it's just temporary as I have always been a LD wife. But so much of it was me not having an understanding of what it was doing to him or our marriage. Now I do, and this would NOT be temporary. Which is part of the reason I feel like still initiating during the separation. For him to see, this isn't stopping. I don't know.
Anyway, yeah.... we were talking in our bedroom, when D6 got out of bed. He went to go put her back in bed and I quickly put on a neglige and was lying on the bed "suggestively" when he came back in.
His reaction was to smirk and say.. "well, that's interesting, when did you get that?" (meaning what I was wearing).
To which I said. "I'm glad it made an impression, it was what I wore on our wedding night". And no I wasn't trying to put a big wedding night plug there, it just is the only piece of lingerie I own. I'm more a t shirt and boxers to bed kind of gal.
I'm going to order a few new things though online and surprise him now and then, as I think he liked it last night. Still don't know if what I'm doing is right, but he definitely isn't turning me down, and he hasn't pulled the "I feel guilty, that can't happen anymore" for a few weeks now.
Guess we'll see.
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!
Well that was SO not accidental! I'm sure he enjoyed it, but you may want to be a BIT more subtle.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
soooo funny! i think the shower thing is good - i wish my H was home to see my new bod! i have made him interested i can tell when i see him.. i do dress with a little more of this and that showing, etc. HA! It has to be on his terms though- I hope he will want to hook up soon- jeez....
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
My H has made a lot of comments when he sees me that I look really good but hasn't expressed any interest in anything else. Too bad because I have just learned how to get around my deep seeded repressed desires. Too bad for him.....and me! I have no outlet for them now. That sucks!
If ML with your H doesn't depress you afterwards then by all means go for it! If there is no OW involved then no harm, no foul. If you find out otherwise though you may want to consider cutting him off completely.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Mishka, You can try leaving something out that he might see, like a vibrator. Then, when he asks about it, act embarrased that he saw it, and say something like, "a girls got to do what she's got to do..." I GUARANTEE that will get his attention.
Oh wait, I see you have a s13, that could scar him for life to see that.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
