like a BB in a boxcar.....

[Committed2Him]

either I make sure to tell a guy upfront that this is how I feel and risk watching him bolt...

There are guys out there that think the "old fashioned" way. The two "dating" (more like "courting") experieces I had were with ladies who were deeply committed christians with whom it was understood physical intimacy was not an option. If things progressed and got more serious, I would have intiated a discussion about keeping us accountable and out of situations where one thing might have led to another.

Know what your standard is and then don't be afraid to get it out there on the table early on. If you aren't even close to being on the same page, why date them at all? Why start to have feelings for someone who looks at intimacy differently than you do?

I miss the emotional intimacy. I am driven nuts buy the sensuality of our society so of course I miss physical intimacy (same for my brothers at church because we do discuss it). We have occasion to meet, serve with and get to know the ladies at church. We are often at prayer meetings where we may hear the beautiful heart felt prayers of a woman. There is that opening up in appropriate settings. BUT, if it just doesn't seem like there is a match for one reason or another, I personally just keep things more superficial so as to avoid giving the wrong impression. There are other guys who don't have the same approach but that is between them and God as to how they respect the emotions and the honor of our sisters in church. I believe that in God's timing, I'll find someone He wants me to meet.

Don't know if that really helps you but that's part of my perspective