wdid, that sounded funny. Sorry, I know you didn't intend it that way.
Do this, but not really. Do that, but then again, don't.
The line is so delicate. That's why I'm so.....well, you know.
I understand what your saying. Not going to go all out pursuit. Show her loving actions. Same type of things that I have been doing, but more attention to her. The right kind. Not going to give her the ILY's, I don't think.
Puppy, sounded almost like sarcasm, but I don't think you are the type. Too straight forward for that. Now attorneytom, different story.
I just sent an email:
Hey you! Had a little time. How was lunch?
Checked on the girls, and they are ok.
I thought this was a good one to make you laugh again.
A man calls the Animal Control in his town, because there is a crazed monkey on his roof, and he can't figure out how to get it down safely. Soon, a smoking van sputters up, and an old mexican man gets out, carrying a chihuahua, a baseball bat, and a gun.
He hands the man the gun.
"Okay, here's what we do. I'm going up on your roof, threaten the big chango with this bat until he falls down. When he falls down, this little perrito will kill him by biting him in the huevos.
"Great," says the man. "But what's the gun for?"
"In case I fall down instead of the loco chango.....shoot the dog!"
Funny? Yeah, I thought so
We'll see if I get a response. Maybe should have left out the lunch part.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
I agree. This is really evident with "going dark". Everyone says but won't my S think I have given up on us( or the like) but really it is to give you some space, some perspective that isn't based on emothion but reality, it is for your protection. So that goes against what you feel but in reality is probably the best thing for you if you are at that point.
hope that helps.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
kat, I can see myself being dark with her if she wasn't at home anymore. If she moves out, then you bet, darkness comes. I plan on helping her move, get set up and then, dark.
But while at home....way different story. If it was a constant barrage of venom, then I would have to agree. Being dark would help give some perspective. Too hard when we still sleep together in the same bed.
To me, being dark is playing mind games. May work in some sitch's, but not all.
Maybe different levels of dark.
Like a different shade of pale.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Puppy, sounded almost like sarcasm, but I don't think you are the type. Too straight forward for that.
No, not at all! I think anytime you can maintain some "contact" without ILYs or "pursuing" behavior, it's great. Fun, light e-mails are a great way to do that.
Ha ha ha....I reread what I wrote...ahahhaha...it was kinda like that wasn't it? But, it is true....walk the fine line.....you'll know by her response.......pull back if she cringes.....pull way back....but keep showing her from AFAR that you love her. Better? Have a good Friday, h4h!
I think anytime you can maintain some "contact" without ILYs or "pursuing" behavior, it's great. Fun, light e-mails are a great way to do that.