What is the reasoning behind keeping the filing a secret from him (or any spouse)? Is it because his reaction might be volatile? If that's the case, wouldn't he be more volatile when you served him after you secretly filed? Maybe I'm not getting it.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
