If you had discussions about it in the past, I would say just file. My H had agreed we would talk about it before either one of us did anything, but of course he just did it one day. If you don't know my situation, he didn't even have the nads to tell me that he had filed!!

I think once you do file, if you haven't talked about it before hand, let him know before he gets served. He will be upset either way but with it already in process, he won't be able to sway your opinion and will know that you are serious.

Hugs, kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory