To be honest, I don't think I'm very good at DB'ing.
Maybe it's because I've been trying to DB.
Maybe if I don't try so hard and "just let it happen" then things may get easier.
being the kind of person I am this would be mush easier if there were "step by step" instructions. I function better that way. Since there are no instructions and I feel I have to fly by the seat of my pants then it makes it very difficult for me to stay on track.
Mike, not for nothing but there are a couple of things that worked well for me.
The first being, I always, and I do mean always, kept a bottle of water with me. Whenever my W would be speaking to me and it was something that irked me or didnt sit right, I would take a very long deliberate drink of my water bottle. This enabled me a little time to process my responses rather than simply firing back off the cuff. It is so much easier to DB when you have a moment or two to gather your responses.
The second thing I reccomend is a dry erase board. Write down what is working for you and what isn't in seperate columns. Read them each night before bed. You would be amazed how much you remember when you sleep on these thoughts.
One last thing and I will go.
Stop being such a dork..........
When people compliment you on how you are doing, take the fricken compliment. It kills me that you won't even accept that just maybe people see improvement in you. You are so quick to acknowledge when you are a dumbass, but it's like pulling teeth for you to be proud of some of your actions. PMA buddy........It's good for the soul.
