Question for live-in WAWs

[LosingSunshine]

Thank you so much Sandi! W had said several times last week when she brought up the M that she did not have the strength to work on the M and that there was nothing I could do. There are things that I can do and I am doing the best that I can to continue DBing.

I will bring it up sometime tomorrow if it's appropriate. I have finished reading a book, the involved father, and in it he talks about a division of responsibilities. We never had that talk and I also found out this week, that she has never read a book about parenting, per se. In any case, regardless of how this sitch plays out, I made it clear that it is important that we figure out some things for the kids sake (conversation last weekend during the I want a D talk, not just a sep).

I can see how she can think that I am over compensating and your advice is priceless! The last thing I want is to have my stopping of the same as usual behaviour lead me down a cheeseless tunnel!

Well, W is off after work to a friends for the evening. I got a babysitter to do dinner with some friends, and she doesn't know. Of course, she'll find out when my D says that the babysitter was over tonight. Could be an interesting conversation.

Thanks again!