H's work plans are messed up today because of the weather. But so would the biking plans he proposed, but never finalized with me, in terms of a day/time, etc. So he calls as 8am and asks what else would work for me today?
Umm.. excuse me, I didn't realize I agreed to do anything 'today'?
I have made plans for today (based on the weather forecast for rain) that I would do things for my job (which has some flexibilty, but needs to be done by Sunday night).
I am conflicted,
I think that if I agree to go with H for what he has planned (he did not say, nor did he ask if today would work for me before 8am this morning), that I am perpetuating the very pattern I want to dissuade. His job gets to dictate our time together, planned or unplanned and everyone elses plans have to flex around those. If I make & stick to plans regardless of changes to his job, then I am mean and bi#^hy.
If I stick by my original plans of working on things for my job today, & telling him that today does not work, then I don't feel I am reinforcing the effort he did do to initiate an outing with me and try to plan something.
Do I go with him and tell him of my concerns I outlined in the first one? Or not go with him and tell him my gratitude for his trying that I outlined on the 2nd one?
So any advice??
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
