Me, too, Rusty, working on the inner sexuality...lol...
My kids do not talk about the sitch much at all. My son has said that he's frustrated because no one ever talks about it, it's like nothing happened, because we're all so polite to each other.
My daughter was mostly concerned about seeing her dad as often as she wanted to, when he left. But that was it. She was only 16 when he left, and more concerned about herself (as teenagers often are) and her life.
Lately, she's indicated more sympathy for what I must have been going through, but we don't really talk about it at all.
For some time though, my husband would talk to me about the way the kids responded to him and the kids would talk to me about something their dad did or said that bothered them, and I refused to be in the middle and told them all that they needed to talk to EACH OTHER, because I couldn't fix it for them.
A big goal of mine was to not interfere with their relationship with their father. I want them to be totally okay with having both of us at functions and things.
I think the kids spend the most time with me. I still live in the house they grew up in, and my daughter comes home from college to be with me. My son has his own place but he can go longer than I do without seeing his father.
I guess, after 5 years, they've gotten used to the situation.
Married: 25 years Separated: 5 years Kids: 2, ages 21 and 24 Me: 53 H: 50
