Subpoena her bank and credit card statements, to show she cannot handle money. Subpoena her cell phone records and e-mail records to prove she is with OM. Subpoena her apartment lease to show she moved out. Subpoena neighbors and friends as character witnesses, neighbor has see W crawling up the back stairs more than once coming home drunk. Others have had to drive her home, she cannot get kids to put on their seatbelts (they don't listen to her) and on and on and on. This is all documented by witnesses along with her leaving the kids at the park the other day. Subpoena parish priest to document that he never sees W at church but does see me every Sunday with the kids. Subpoena W's police/insurance records to show how many times a claim has been filed against her for traffic relates accidents. I won't subpoena all these people, I'll get statements and tell judge that I can produce these people.
She has already agreed to: I get the new mini-van, she'll take my 1997 Ford F-150 truck (in great shape). She cannot handle kids and they cramp her social life: I get full custody of the kids and she can have them every other weekend, L says this is standard and I can let W have them more if I want, I will tell W I will not stand in her way and she can have the kids whenever she wants. She wants � of my 401K and I'm willing to accept this.
Only possible sticking point is my request that I get the house vs. trade off of she doesn't have to pay child support and since she cannot force me and the kids out of the house if I have full custody why not just give up the house, if not, she can collect when they are all 18 and all out of the house and I will go after her to pay child support immediately. If I have to garnish her wages for child support payments I will. I'm paying her medical/health insurance and car insurance, those will stop and if she agrees to give the me the house I'll give her a small stipend to help defray the cost of her insurance.
Cat, W is really scared of not being able to see the kids. My L says, the court will insist that we set a schedule every other week, etc. to fall back on when there are problems. I can tell W she can have them whenever, it will not be in writing, and I am willing to work with W on this issue, under certain guidlines.
Hey Happycamper, Thanks for checking in on me,
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Happycamper: not forgiving someone is like making them a poisonous drink and then drinking it yourself!!! It always encourages me to let my H go in every way.
WARNING - VENTING AHEAD
I hope time will heal my wounds. Soon W will not be over at my house everyday and I'll only see her once maybe twice a week. I am still relatively new at this, 6 - 8 months and I am still relatively angry with W. I know I have to forgive her, but what she did is unthinkable, it's crazy I have to forgive her for something she did to me and the kids. I don't know how everyone here is able to do this (forgive). I mad as hell and want nothing to do with her (who wants to be around a liar and a cheat) the site of her makes me sick.
Hope I didn't scare you off, Happycamper, please stop by anytime and check in on the angry man from Missouri.
I'm really not angry all the time, The kids and I have fun, I'm having fun at softball, meeting a lot of new people. I'll be fine and find love again, just want that liar/cheat of a W out of my life as much as possible.
We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
