I WAS going thru hell -- at this time last time. My wife ended her affair last August, however, and came to me begging forgiveness and wanting me to stop my divorce action. After two 3-month "stays", I finally withdrew the action earlier this year, and while we are still dealing with some long-term SSM issues, our marriage is strong and we are healing.
There has been no further contact, either with OM or anyone else. (And yes, I do still verify)
