Hope4us struggle, part 6

[Hope4us]

Thanks WDID. I've got "not just friends", "after an affair", "Divorce Remedy", "Surviving an Affair" and a couple other books by Harley.

3 months ago when she agreed to NC I told her I'd like her to read the first two books because they are written for both parties and she didn't say yes or no. I kind of figured if she was truly NC it would take a while for her to get to the point where she'll read them. I haven't pushed it since, but we're getting close to that point where I'll ask again.

I guess I see it as typical foggy thinking. She is SURE she's never loved me and SURE OM is the perfect guy for her. At least until about a month ago I got that impression from her. But lately she seems to be coming around and I don't want to pursue which I imagine she would feel I was doing if I asked her to read the books RIGHT NOW. We just seem to be making some real progress and I don't want to mess that up by doing anything she could see as R talk, which those books would definitely be.

Soooooo....Our relocation talk will happen this weekend. It will show me exactly where she is. If she is planning the little OM scenario like I described she'll balk at moving. She won't be able to use the "DS16 likes it here so I'm not moving" excuse. If she doesn't mind moving it'll tell me it's truly over with OM and she's willing to give us a try. If that's the case (which I think it might be) then I've got time, time, time and the books can come when she's made more of a commitment.

I know what you're saying about any thoughts about OM. And that's another reason us relocating would be good. She wouldn't have to go to the office they met at everyday and trigger like I'm sure she does.

Thanks for the props.