For the Guy with kids and a WW5

[hopeful4her]

Jeff, same here. I will have to save the money. Problem is, I do not WANT to divorce her. If she wants it, then she'll have to do the dirty deed herself. In my mind, the only reason for me to D her is if she tried to take the girls away. Nothing less that 50/50 split is acceptable to me.

She told me a few weeks ago that she had had the L draft the paperwork for divorce. For some reason, she told her L to hold off. Wanted to give it the 7 months that she was going to sign the apartment lease for.

"But don't push me" was what she told me.

Feels like a missile aimed right at me.

Then everything calmed down. That was the second night of discussion after she finally told me about finding the apartment on a Saturday night. The night of drama with my kids.

I ok with her leaving. My goal is to try to get her to end things with OM. That is now my short term goal, more than anything else. If she leaves, then it can be with a clear mind.

Of course, my long term is to have her thinking about restoring the M. I'm not worried so much about our R. If we can get to working together, that will fall into place with some additional work.

I know that I have been having confusing actions lately. I also at the same time want to give her my best. Let her see ME. I might have a small window of opportunity and she may be a little vulnerable, right now. Maybe a LITTLE clear headed. At least a little bit.

And Puppy, I'll take some suggestions that you believe would be doable in my particular case.

Again, it seems like my sitch is a little different than most, and see glimmers of hope. I don't know if you see the same.