I understand all of the theories on "healing." A lot of theory for one-size-its-all. Nothing can tell YOU exactly what to do.
I definitely suggest you open the door to friendship with this gentleman. I am certain he, like you, needs to know there are good people out there. It could be very good for both of you to share your experiences. My friend Teresa was very helpful to me in this way.
I know it is hard at times but I would focus on getting to know him before involving any romantic entanglements. Who knows? You could be friends for a while and end up dating....
Take Care,
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
