Mulesqb still getting kicked in the a$$

[faithisbelieving]

mules...I lost 38 lbs. Try to eat and stay in shape.

You still didn't say if you are in the state of NY. If you are, I don't recommend that you leave the house under any circumstances.

Next, bro'..this ain't easy. Been there, done that, still doing it. It takes a long time if you are in this for the fight. Some, for years.

You have to let your W have her problems and solve them. Yes...you should be there if she needs you. Yes...you should help her if she asks for help. But you can't take on her problems. She must solve them on her own. YOU CAN'T FIX THEM and that is the main thing we men want to do. We want to FIX THE SITCH AND FIX IT NOW.

It don't work.

If she tells you something, listen, validate, don't try to fix. If you REALLY need to help, ask them:
"is there anything I can do to help you with X,y,z?"
Most times they will say no.

Truly...you must detach from her emotional mess for YOUR HEALTH. My buddy Jeff here once posted to me "now is the time to sit back, relax, let go and watch the workings of a women lost in MLC." Well....you know what he means..it means to disengage but 'be there'. A tough tightrope to walk indeed.

BTW...when your W tells you that she feels she isn't loved with 4 males in the house, it is NOT R talk to respond positively:

"Honey...I feel pain knowing that you are going through a difficult time right now. We are here for you. We love you. It's my preference that we stay as a loving family but I want to do what will make you happy. If you need to leave....I understand...etc"

Hang in.
FIB